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节庆的意义

2009-12-24T20:11:00.000-08:00

曾有个作家说过：“人民过着西洋情人节不知道Valentine是什么，化装游行又不清楚Carnival的意义何在；吃火鸡达产不明白要对谁感恩；耶诞狂欢又没有任何宗教的反思，凡节庆都必定联系着宗教文化的渊源；将别人的节庆拿过来，有如把人家的祖宗牌位接来祭拜，与不知为何祭拜。

因为科技的发达，我们逐渐被西洋化。。我也不例外。

My best friend's wedding

2009-06-20T07:41:00.000-07:00

Today is a very special day to my very best friend, Ms Phua Lee Choo (Ops! she should be called as Madam Phua..haha!!) . She registered with Yi Ling, her devote lover at 1pm, MCA buidling.

I'm really happy for her... I'm not sure how a woman feel when she has signed on the agreement. Well I really can't imagine myself in that situation, Ha!Ha!! (Just kidding)

She smiled beautiful from 1pm until 2.30pm.(when the R.O.M ended) No make up, no flower, everything is simple just like her character, the whole procedure was short and a bit rushed.

In fact, I was blurred at that time, everything went so fast, I had yet to set my camera, not in a good position to capture the very moment. The worst was my camera is low batt .... Walao... How can like that??? But somehow I still managed to capture some of their movement. (as Joo Li has send her orders to me, Mei Feng and Yong Zhao don't worry, I had send her your very best wished to her as you required)

Finally the moment end and my tasks required by all my friends had completed. (pheww....I hoped I didn't miss any.)

Let's talk about her,

I knew her since my primary six, but we were not close, maybe just a hi, bye friend. Then we went to different secondary school, we lost contact since then. But we met again when we were in Form 6. then we become best friends and we even named ourselved as "F9" because they are 9 of us, a bunch of crazy girls, who always hang out together, share our happy and sad... I really miss the 2 years form 6 life.

She is quiet, soft spoke and gentle, a steroetype girl that man will like to have, but don't deceive by her outlook, she is not weak but very brave to fight back any setback; She is determined, when she made her decision, she acts fast like a wind.. when she was angry, she looked scary, (luckly i never experienced that, I just heard about that, considered it as a dingdong story).

I still remember when she worked in Muar, we always hang out, discussed about our romance, our future and everything. Times flies, she has found her special one to share with, I am no longer needed. I feel a bit lost. But I still happy for her..

Well, I really think Lee Choo has choosed the right life partner, Mr. Yi Ling, although her ROM news might be too sudden for us to respond (as I only received her invitation on Thursday). But no matter how or no matter what, I still think that he is the right man to her. A man can really protect her and love her with everything his has. My eyes told me that he is an endanger species (haha!! good man = endanger species, left not many in the world hard to get one!)

I'm want to record down this special moment in my blog for my very best friend, Lee Choo. I love you, my friend and I want to send my very best regards to you.

The video was taken during their vows that would protect their loves and marriage forever..

活在当下！！

2009-06-10T06:14:00.000-07:00

好久都没在这里留言了！！太忙了！！忙到自己在忙什么自己也不知道？！可谓是穷忙族！

那天和朋友聊天喝茶时，谈到活在当下的话题。。我在想现代的人真的都好像都只活在当下。。没有好好的规划自己的未来！！

今天不知明天事, 正是为何人们只抱有活在当下.. 在经济方面，很多人都好像是如此！！正是为何有很多穷忙族！！我好像也是其中一个！

我不喜欢活在当下，我有好多事要做.. 有好多梦要在未来实现！！活在当下好像是给就快死掉的人的想法！！所以我要活在不只当下，也要活在未来。。。一起展望未来吧！！

Just friend..!!

2009-04-19T03:56:00.000-07:00

We met again on last Friday night..

The only day that you are free for us to meet. I know if I said reject to meet you on that day, that will take longer time for us to meet. I wish to meet you so I didn't reject you although I'm very tired after the dancing class.

I've been asking you. "Why only Friday?" You just smiled and said nothing.

Why only Friday? Can I just considered myself as "Friday coffee mate" to you?

I've been thinking who am I to you? A Friday coffee mate, a friend to fill in your free time or what else? Well I know this is a question that I don't wish to know the answer. But I still text you that night! You told me not to complicate our relationship, we are friend after all...

"We are friend".. Well I should have know this answer long time ago but I just refused to face it. I still been imagined a lot of possibilities.. But the answer has crashed my imagination.

At first I've been thinking, why I would be attracted by you? Your background? Your qualification? Your looks? But now I realized it's you the one I like nothing to do with that...

However, I think this should be an end to us, which I should do it earlier, which I have known the ending earlier.

I'm alright! I told myself don;t worry you will be fine...I don't feel anything at all.. I should never hope for anything from you. Its truth that I'm not hurt at all, I have no tear but my heart is crying.. I don't feel pain because my heart has stopped beating...

I don't feel anything...

2 days 1 night on boat experienced.. Woah..!!!

2009-04-04T19:54:00.000-07:00

23-24 March 2009...

Well, after a day in Hanoi, we started our journey to Halong Bay..

After almost 4 hours journey, we waited for boarding to the boat. We are going to stay on the boat..Yeah, an extraordinary experience!!

But what kind of boat we stayed?? Oh.. that is the boat... hmm.. Hopefully I can meet my "Jack" there.. Hahaha!!Dreaming in the morning !!Bad thing wor...

Halong Bay= Natural wonder of the world.. I'm here!!!

This is those rock in the caves.. Well I don't really know how to appreciate it as I think it almost like those caves in Malaysia.. But since these are the attractive scenery so I just enjoyed..

The night in Halong bay.. When the sea is so calm and peaceful.. So windy and the surrounding is so magnificent... I really enjoyed the moment.. Silent is the most I need at the moment..

The morning after our kayaking activity.. so much fun!!
Picture session again while on our way back to the harbour..

Our dinner, fried spring roll..
The night at Hanoi street after the rain...
Oh! Photo session during we waiting for our train to Sapa..

Conclusion

Well, we did nothing much on the board.. Nothing much we can do too, sleep and eat are the only things we can do. Ya... I really happy with this trip as due to nothing much we can do on the boat so we met friends there. Have a long talk with them share experienced and cultures.. Good experienced!!

To be continue....

My Hanoi trip.... from 22-28 March 2009

2009-04-04T18:05:00.000-07:00

On 22/03/2009

After our check-in in LCCT, its time for us to have a proper breakfast...
Yummy... we had our breakfast at Oldtown Kopitiam. After a good breakfast is time for boarding...

Well , before we left the "kopitiam" let's took a picture... say "cheeseeeeeEE"....

Come on...Look here !! Another picture captured in front of the plane..

Finallly we were in Hanoi, the man is the one who picked us from the airport.. The trip from airport to "Hello Vietnam Hotel" cost us about USD14. Well... we paid the transport because we just stayed in the hotel for a night.. If you stay more than 1 nigh then you can negotiate with the person in charge in the hotel for a transport.

This is the place where we passed by before entered our "Hello Vietnam Hotel".. The hotel cost us USD 12 per night for a twin sharing room. Well we didn't like the hotel much because it is smelly and not as clean as we expected. So we checked out on the next day....

Let's have a glance on their market.. very busy and very dirty. I can't imagine myself sitting there..but if I do, I will be like them not a big deal, after all I just want to keep my life go on.

I found something similar to our "mamak" stall, there have a lot of stalls selling drinks like the aunty in the picture, with a few small chairs then their business start.

This is our lunch in a restoran name " Little Hanoi"... Well the food on our table showed in the picture is the ingredient for the spring roll... I found that the Vietnamese do like to eat vegetables.. Most of their foods have a lot of vegetables in there.... Well.. I do like their food very much (I mean those I tried).

The most terrified incident I met in Vietnam is their traffic... Well their traffic is horrible... everyone just drive their own way. If you plan to cross the road, well... you just have to cross without stop down, of course you have to be very careful while you are crossing... The safest way for us to cross the road is we followed the local people while they were crossing as well.. Ha!!

"Every crossed road is just like our life decision, it may seem to be difficult at first but when you are at the other roadside, turned back your head, you will find that everything has been passed so easily.. "

This is Ho Chi Minh Palace Museum

I took this from the top of the military musuem. This is a place I do recommend my friends to go. To know a country and people, we must know their history. Vietnam is a country that full of the wars history..

Now only I realised the reason of Vietnamese can survive in a hard time because they are true patriotic. They are a soldier in their blood.. But I doubt can I be like them? passionate? patriotic? Well I doubt myself especially with the current situation in Malaysia.. Well you know what I meant, right ? Racial issues, complicated politic issues..
I do hope our politician know that our nation need peaceful life, our people do not have any racial problem.. Do wake up please!!!

Their barber shop...

Our dinner, grill cat-fish. Not bad quite nice...

To be continue...

想“婚”了吗？？

2009-02-09T14:51:00.000-08:00

“男大当婚，女大当嫁”这句话还适合在本世纪用吗？？

为什么一定要结婚呢？？难道不能就维持这样吗？？世俗的眼光很奇怪，当一个女人到了适婚年龄还没遇到适合的人，人们就称呼她们为“老姑婆" ,

当女人一到了适婚年龄，身边的亲朋戚友就开始替我们操心，不是劳师动众的帮忙介绍哪家公子就是苦口婆心的劝我们眼光别太高，免得最后自己的三高= 学历高，薪金高，年龄高吓跑人家！！

天啊！！男人没眼光也得怪我们吗？没遇到适合自己的人就得随便吗？不结婚就很怪吗？为了不让自己成为别人眼中的怪物就拼命的把自己往外“hardsales" ，这样的女人还有自尊吗？

在我眼里，单身的女人一年有两次花红可收，一是公司给的年底花红，再来就是新年时长辈们和已结婚的人所给的红包，我称之为单身花红，因为只有单身才可享用这福利。

说到这新年花红还真有点不好意思，过了适婚年龄的女生如果长辈分红包时，都会“有意无意”的不断提醒我们年纪不小了，希望我们可以不用再收红包，甚至有时还问我们何时可以回礼。真的好像告诉他们：" 真不好意思你的“大恩大德”还有待我小女来世报答。”（去你xxx, 现在你到底是给不给，不给就罢，喽哩叭所得到地烦不烦？)。拿了那红包可真是有点“为五斗米折腰”的感觉。。

其实不管男人或女人，谁喜欢孤单的生活？有哪个人不希望另一半的出现？曾有人说：“寻找另一半就好像寻找另一边的翅膀，如果幸运的你可以得到另一边的翅膀，你的人生就能起飞到另一个旅程。可是寻找不到一不是不幸，因为这世界很公平的有得必有失。。所以别气馁!

情人节要到了，就祝全天下的情人，情人节快乐！没情人的朋友们，就友谊万岁！！

明白它们,你会发现你的人生在改变^^

2009-02-03T06:54:00.000-08:00

人之所以痛苦，在于追求错误的东西。

人之所以痛苦，在于追求错误的东西。

如果你不给自己烦恼，别人也永远不可能给你烦恼。因为你自己的内心，你放不下。

好好的管教你自己，不要管别人。

你随时要认命，因为你是人。

这个世界本来就是痛苦的，没有例外的。

你什么时候放下，什么时候就没有烦恼。

每一种创伤，都是一种成熟。

当你烦恼的时候，你就要告诉你自己，这一切都是假的，你烦恼什么？

根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁，如果有一条疯狗咬你一口，难道你也要趴下去反咬他一口吗？

忌妒别人，不会给自己增加任何的好处。忌妒别人，也不可能减少别人的成就。

永远不要浪费你的一分一秒，去想任何你不喜欢的人。

得不到的东西，我们会一直以为他是美好的，那是因为你对他了解太少，没有时间与他相处在一起。当有一天，你深入了解后，你会发现原不是你想像中的那么美好。

这个世间只有圆滑，没有圆满的。

不要刻意去猜测他人的想法，如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断，通常都会有错误的。

你要感谢告诉你缺点的人。

时间总会过去的，让时间流走你的烦恼吧！

不要因为小小的争执，远离了你至亲的好友，也不要因为小小的怨恨，忘记了别人的大恩。

感谢上苍我所拥有的，感谢上苍我所没有的。

当你手中抓住一件东西不放时，你只能拥有这件东西，如果你肯放手，你就有机会选择别的。人的心若死执自己的观念，不肯放下，那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度而已。

如果你能够平平安安的渡过一天，那就是一种福气了。多少人在今天已经见不到明天的太阳，多少人在今天已经成了残废，多少人在今天已经失去了自由，多少人在今天已经家破人亡。

恶口永远不要出自于我们的口中，不管他有多坏，有多恶。你愈骂他，你的心就被污染了，你要想，他就是你的善知识。

你不要常常觉得自己很委曲，你应该要想，他对我这样已经很好了，这就是修行的功夫。

世界原本就不是属于你，因此你用不着抛弃，要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我所用，但非我所属。

学会用理解的，欣赏的眼光去看对方，而不是以自以为是的关心去管对方。

成熟的人不问过去；聪明的人不问现在；豁达的人不问未来。

发光并非太阳的专利，你也可以发光。

你可以用爱得到全世界，你也可以用恨失去全世界。

爱的力量大到可以使人忘记一切，却又小到连一粒嫉妒的沙石也不能容纳。

人总是珍惜未得到的，而遗忘了所拥有的。

如你想要拥有完美无暇的友谊，可能一辈子找不到朋友。

我的忧心和烦恼！！

2009-02-03T05:47:00.001-08:00

最近都好忙，忙于各种大小事务。。

虽然再忙，但是我的心里还是有所担心。我的担心，不只是事业，父母更是弟弟的课业。

我的事业停歇不前，想好好为事业好好的打拼，可是好像都没什么进步。

父母一天一天的老去，我总觉得自己很没用，那么大了还是没有能力照顾他们。妈妈还得辛苦的工作，爸爸虽然退休了，可是我担心他的健康，担心他没事干会造成老人痴呆，担心他的钱不够用。。身为大姐的我不的为他们的将来担心。。

弟弟呢！！看是长大了，可还是很孩子气。不懂节省是他最大的缺点。。看他花钱像是毫无顾虑。。有时还满担心他的将来。。

有点替自己觉得可悲.. 可悲的是事业与爱情甚至是人生都觉得很不如意。。没钱又不美。。开始讨厌自己。。

2009-02-02T04:41:00.000-08:00

今年的新年很不一样。大家都很担心新年后的日子。。

大家都在谈论新年后的经济，即将非常的低迷。。。有点可怕！

时间过的真快。今天即便是初八了！

新年后的经济会是如何呢？？真的即期待又害怕！！希望今天大家拜拜时，可以多为我们的国家经济多多祈祷！！保佑我们能顺利过关。。

看电影！！

2009-01-08T06:28:00.000-08:00

第一次和你一起看电影，第一次和你那么的靠近，很开心！很sweet! 很想把我的双手抱着你的手臂，好想你在我冷的时候，抱一抱我！！你总是很贴心，总是让我不只不觉跌入幻想的国度！我好想告诉你，我在这里，你可以看一看我吗？？

世界上最遥远的距离，不是你我之间的距离，而是我在你身边，你却不知道我喜欢你！！

每当和你在一起的时候，我都会提醒自己，别幻想了！别期待了！因为我会再度伤心！！我已没勇气再闯情关了！！我老了！！我累了！！一次次的期待，一次次的伤心失望！一次次的绝望！曾几何时，因为你，我差点和好姐妹闹翻，我告诉我自己，女人何苦为男人争风吃醋？姐妹情深！

上天好像在开我的玩笑！总是给我希望，然后再把我从高处推到谷底！！是我的多情惹事吗？？是我的错吗？？我也好想绝情，可是我办不到！！我真的很受伤！！

求求你别再对我好了，我很累，很累了！！

Yes Man!!。。

2009-01-04T06:46:00.000-08:00

就在新的一年，我在倒数的时刻里，正坐在戏院里看着《Yes man!》

这是一部让我蛮深思的，一直以来，我们总是会对一些我们不熟悉的事说不。不肯去尝试.. 如果我们能改变说“yes” ，结局会不会是不一样的？

又还是，在我们的工作环境，我们不管喜欢还是不喜欢，都得身不由己的对老板说“Yes"? 如果我们说“no" , 结局会不会改变呢？

还是，一对情侣，或许伴侣很喜欢，而自己却对那没兴趣，但是为了讨好，没办法只好说“yes " . 如果说“No" 结局又会如何呢？？

有时，不论" yes" 或是“no" 。我们有时都是身不由己。。即使有权利，也得看环境。即使有环境，也得看人。。无论如何，就还是身不由己！！

但是我还是不管喜欢或不，我都随意的说“yes o no".。。那就是我了！！！哈哈哈！！！

不再期待。。

2009-01-02T03:19:00.000-08:00

星期五，晴。

期待是一个很可怕的东西。。

在我眼里，有期望，就有希望，有的希望可能会破灭，幸运的也可能会成真。但每每我期望的事，都总不会实现，所以我相信一件事，那就是没有期待，就没有失望，没有失望就没有伤心。。从此以后，我不再有期望，不再有期待，因为我不要再伤心。。。

Photographic

2008-12-28T19:37:00.000-08:00

I always think that a good photographer is a good story teller. Every of theirs pictures in fact is telling us their story.

I'm learning how to be a good photographer as well as a good story teller. I hope that my photos can reflect every story I wish to tell my viewers.

There are some photos that I wish to share with my friends.

当爱变成了一种责任时。。。

2008-12-24T17:49:00.000-08:00

爱情很奇妙！

这“感觉”会随着时间，人的转变，而变得捉摸不定！人们都说热恋期的情人都是盲人，他们盲目的看不到对方的缺点，总认为他们的缺点就是他们最美的诠释。可是当从热恋期进入稳定期时，问题就开始浮现，争执不断，就连小小的问题也会用放大镜把它放大。当初不是因为他/她的特别才喜欢她/他吗？为何如今却因他/她的特别而觉的厌恶呢？

我想其实这是很正常的“程序”吧？从热恋期转入稳定期再到成熟期，从激情转入冷淡期，成熟的恋人会开始对对方产生一种责任。

如果爱情只剩责任，爱情还能长存吗？我一直认为爱情就应该时时保存，方能长久。可是看看我周围的恋人朋友们，恋情一旦到了两年，就好像有点死气沉沉。难道两年是一个关卡？爱情关卡？？我想这只有待我自己才能发掘了！！

女人钱真好赚！！

2008-12-21T00:47:00.000-08:00

女人的钱真得很好赚！我想今年什么经济不好, 什么开源截流？都没办法阻止女人花钱。因为女人爱美是天经地义的事.. wa hahahaha!! 又在发神经，给自己借口了！

女人的钱真好赚！从头发到脚子都可以被商家财源滚滚来！！甚至荒秒的连阴毛都能有发财的方法！！

女人真苦，全部赚的钱都花在让自己看的美美的，有时还嫌不够花。难道女人真如男人所说“女为悦己而容”？？我只能说是少许有那种原因存在。毕竟女人把自己打扮得漂漂亮亮，不就为了让别人的眼光能在自己的身上多停留几秒吗？如果你说没有，那是骗人的！毕竟当别人称赞你时，你是开心的，对吧？如果你还是不开心，那你就得看医生了！！因为maybe你有病咯!

总而言之，女人的钱就是好赚就对了！！

另一个聚会！

2008-12-12T19:29:00.002-08:00

星期五，晴.

今天下午，我的午餐很不一样，因为今天有个远道而来得好姐妹陪我吃午餐。很开心！我的姐妹是谁呢？？她就是彭雪琴小姐和美芬小姐。席间，我们聊不完的话题，只可惜我的午餐时间有限。真希望时间停留在那一刻。虽然，我们不是常常见面，但是我们的关系不会因为距离而有所生疏。好期待下一次的聚会！！朋友们，十二月见啦!!

Open Minded?

2008-12-11T07:24:00.000-08:00

Today, my "Singaporean" boss had a very short meeting with all the AOs(Account Officer) from Muar which also including me . Initially, I do not know what actually he wanted to discuss about? About our current target?? About our performance? About our loan portfolio? What he want to talk about?? Even my department head is not allow to join us in the meeting. Wah... "sie" lah!!

Deng ! Deng ! Deng! Deng! Finally the metting started........

OH!!!! He actually wanted us to have an open discussion regarding our "BOSSes" and " SAMs"!! Ha!! ha!! Sure boh? My employer want to listen to ground voice?? REally?? unbelievable!! No matter how or what, I still comment about HIM..... But not the everything la!! Have to "pandai pandai sendiri la" Since when my management can really hear from us?? But I do hope my management can really change their mind set!! more open to the comments to help up in our business!!

Nows a day, I really need to enhance my relationship skills... I'm too blutant in everything.. so always "kena" the most from management.!! Too bad lah!! Still learning the things that I will never get from my books!!